Fuck this is hot

Ana Marie Cox: Do you personally consume porn now? 

Jones: I do. When I was single, it was a great way to stay at home. It’s nice that you can separate the idea of personal pleasure from the pressure of a relationship.

Last night’s party was great. Not a lot of obvious stories, unlike our other experiences, but the party was fun. While C and I had sex another girl was next to us, with her much older boyfriend, and the girl asked if she could touch C. C said yes; we fucked for an incredibly long time, with the other girl caressing C and kissing her breasts. 

At some point I asked the other girl if I could kiss her, and she said no to kissing but yes to touching. So I played with her gorgeous tits, which were barely concealed underneath a diaphanous black garment, and ran a hand along her thighs and ass. But holding myself up on one hand, fucking, and fondling another girl all the same time cannot be long sustained. 

C loved the fucking but was to overwhelmed to come. Not even her vibrator could send her over the edge. When we first began going to parties we saw almost no other women with toys, and now we see them all the time. Eventually I came and we disengaged and met our neighbours. Later, C chilled on the balcony while I talked to a pretty girl in pink slip who shared the name of a girl I chased in high school. At the same the girl was a “virgin till marriage” (so-called; typical dumb American pseudo-religious girl thing, which means we did a lot, perhaps up to “just the tip”), but in college she ditched the act and acted human. 

Anyway. The girl in the pink slip wanted to be kissed and spanked and many other things. Her enormous tits were barely concealed and easy to bring out. She fell prey to neck kisses. I wish I’d brought rope; I’ve been practicing rope ties, learnt from the book at the link. 

She strikes me as being camera-forward; perhaps you will see her here soon. 

This morning on the way to coffee we were both sore, from the party and from yoga yesterday morning. People laugh at guys doing yoga, but what works, works. On the walk I kept looking about, at all the pretty girls on the street and wondering how many of them were indulging group sex last night. The regular world can seem pretty dull compared to the technicolor orgasmic beauty of the party. How many people really get what they want? 

Yup

I’ve seen a rash of posts about the challenges of dating other couples.

Those challenges are legitimate.  

Dating is fun but it’s also exhausting, people are flakey, “couples” are sometimes not actually couples, pictures are dubious, optimistic, or old. The number of potential dating problems rises as a square of the number of participants. The logistical and financial costs of bad dates can be high. The hazards are well known.

Parties (or clubs) are often better, more fun, and most importantly simpler than two-on-two dates, and when we run into people who seem promising online but have the usual scheduling conflicts, we just tell them which parties we’re going to and suggest they attend too. We don’t have to do the “which evening is free?” tango that seems too common, like cold in winter.

With a party scenario, if the other couple flakes two hours or two days prior, it’s not a big deal for us (or for them). It’s easier to invite people who propose dates to parties and let the scheduling burden lie on them. The logistical complexity is so lower: “Hey, are you going to [party] on [date]?” is easier than attempting to schedule four people’s schedules, preferences, cycles, etc. If they can make it great. If not we still have something fun to do.

At parties, we (and you) may meet 10 or more couples in an evening. If we actively dislike someone within 10 minutes, we probably won’t like them an hour later. And vice-versa. We’re not for everyone.

We can be wrong about people, too. Some people who seem okay clothed may turn out to be fantastic when they’re naked and fucking (that’s happened to us). The “connection” may be discovered, even with someone who you are not immediately attracted to.

We are not totally opposed to all dates all the time and we’ve been on some fun dates. When we host parties we also don’t invite anyone we’ve not met, for the same reason we’d not leave relative strangers near a pile of cash and jewels.

Hosting parties is its own challenge. Which is why people pay for clubs and other people’s parties.

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